You Might Be Marrying The Wrong Person If…

1. Your friends and family think you’re not well suited for each other.
2. You or your fiancé have little dating experience.
3. Your fiancé has ever hit, kicked, slapped, shoved or otherwise physically or verbally abused you, or you have ever been afraid of them.
4. You don’t like his/her same sex parent. The older your fiancé gets the more they will probably be like them.
5. Your fiancé doesn’t have a faith in God or refuses to worship and pray with you.
6. Your fiancé gives you the "silent treatment" when upset.
7. Your fiancé seems incapable of showing affection.
8. Your fiancé has few or no friends except you.
9. Your fiancé has been drunk or high on drugs, and promises that "it won’t happen again." But it does.
10. You have had sex with each other. (Pre-marital sex is a significant predictor of divorce.)
11. Your fiancé won’t talk with you about the important matters, the cherished dreams, the deepest fears.
12. Your fiancé puts you down to others.
13. The more you get to know your fiancé, the more things you don’t like about them.
14. Your fiancé’s temper flares over insignificant matters.
15. Your fiancé mistreats his or her opposite-sex parent. The way he/she treats them is a predictor of how you will ultimately be treated.
16. You knew each other for less than a year before becoming engaged.
17. You can’t imagine being married to them when they are old, wrinkled, fat or bald.
18. Your fiancé is indifferent toward or impatient with children.
19. Your fiancé habitually fails to keep promises to you or others.
20. Your fiancé is cruel, mean-spirited or manipulative toward others. When the "new wears off" of your relationship, that’s how you will probably be treated also.
21. You find yourself having to frequently make excuses for your fiancé’s behavior.
22. Your fiancé is jealous and/or tries to control who you spend time with or what you do.
23. Your fiancé is irresponsible with money and/or is deeply in debt.

by Paul White

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